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This explanation covers the basics that you will need to
understand how the Enneagram works, and will be especially
helpful for beginners. As you will see, only a few simple
concepts are needed to begin your journey of self-discovery.
The Enneagram, however, is ultimately subtle and complex,
as you will appreciate the more you use it in your life. For
more guidelines, consult Personality Types 27-55, and
for further clarifications Understanding the Enneagram,
11-30.
Index of Subjects:
Structure
The Enneagram's structure may look complicated, although
it is actually simple. It will help you understand the Enneagram
if you sketch it yourself.
Draw a circle and mark nine equidistant points on its
circumference. Designate each point by a number from one to
nine, with nine at the top, for symmetry and by convention.
Each point represents one of the nine basic personality types.
The nine points on the circumference are also connected
with each other by the inner lines of the Enneagram. Note
that points Three, Six, and Nine form an equilateral triangle.
The remaining six points are connected in the following order:
One connects with Four, Four with Two, Two with Eight, Eight
with Five, Five with Seven, and Seven with One. These six
points form an irregular hexagram. The meaning of these inner
lines will be discussed shortly.
Your Basic Personality Type
From one point of view, the Enneagram can be seen as a
set of nine distinct personality types, with each number on
the Enneagram denoting one type. It is common to find a little
of yourself in all nine of the types, although one of them
should stand out as being closest to yourself. This is your
basic personality type.
Everyone emerges from childhood with one of the nine
types dominating their personality, with inborn temperament
and other pre-natal factors being the main determinants of
our type. This is one area where most of all the major Enneagram
authors agreewe are born with a dominant type.
Subsequently, this inborn orientation largely determines the
ways in which we learn to adapt to our early childhood environment.
It also seems to lead to certain unconscious orientations
toward our parental figures, but why this is so, we still
do not know. In any case, by the time children are four or
five years old, their consciousness has developed sufficiently
to have a separate sense of self. Although their identity
is still very fluid, at this age children begin to establish
themselves and find ways of fitting into the world on their
own.
Thus, the overall orientation of our personality reflects
the totality of all childhood factors (including genetics)
that influenced its development. (For more about the developmental
patterns of each personality type, see the related section
in the type descriptions in Personality
Types and in The
Wisdom of the Enneagram. There is a discussion
of the overall theory in Understanding
The Enneagram, (67-70.)
Several more points can be made about the basic type itself.
- People do not change from one basic personality type to
another.
- The descriptions of the personality types are universal
and apply equally to males and females, since no type is
inherently masculine or feminine.
- Not everything in the description of your basic type will
apply to you all the time because you fluctuate constantly
among the healthy, average, and unhealthy traits that make
up your personality type.
- The Enneagram uses numbers to designate each of
the types because numbers are value neutral
they imply the whole range of attitudes and behaviors of
each type without specifying anything either positive or
negative. Unlike the labels used in psychiatry, numbers
provide an unbiased, shorthand way of indicating a lot about
a person without being pejorative.
- The numerical ranking of the types is not significant.
A larger number is no better than a smaller number; it is
not better to be a Nine than a Two because nine is a bigger
number.
- No type is inherently better or worse than any other.
While all the personality types have unique assets and liabilities,
some types are often more desirable than others in any given
culture or group. Furthermore, for one reason or another,
you may not be happy being a particular type. You may feel
that your type is "handicapped" in some way. As you learn
more about all the types, you will see that just as each
has unique capacities, each has different limitations. If
some types are more esteemed in Western society than others,
it is because of the qualities that society rewards, not
because of any superior value of those types. The ideal
is to become your best self, not to imitate the assets
of another type.
Identifying Your Basic Personality Type
If taken properly, our questionnaire, the
Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator (RHETI), will
identify your basic personality type for you. This short section
is included so that we can have a basic understanding of the
types in our discussion without having to go to the longer
descriptions in the next section.
As you think about your personality, which of the following
nine roles fits you best most of the time? Or, to put it differently,
if you were to describe yourself in a few words, which of the
following word clusters would come closest?
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The Enneagram with Riso-Hudson Type
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These one-word descriptors can be expanded into four-word
sets of traits. Keep in mind that these are merely highlights
and do not represent the full spectrum of each type.
Type One is principled, purposeful, self-controlled, and perfectionistic.
Type Two is demonstrative, generous, people-pleasing, and possessive.
Type Three is adaptive, excelling, driven, and image-conscious.
Type Four is expressive, dramatic, self-absorbed, and temperamental.
Type Five is perceptive, innovative, secretive, and isolated.
Type Six is engaging, responsible, anxious, and suspicious.
Type Seven is spontaneous, versatile, distractible, and scattered.
Type Eight is self-confident, decisive, willful, and confrontational.
Type Nine is receptive, reassuring, agreeable, and complacent.
The Triads
The Enneagram is a 3 x 3 arrangement of nine personality
types in three Triads. There are three types in the
Instinctive Triad, three in the Feeling Triad,
and three in the Thinking Triad, as shown below. Each
Triad consists of three personality types that have in common
the assets and liabilities of that Triad. For example, personality
type Four has unique strengths and liabilities involving its
feelings, which is why it is in the Feeling Triad. Likewise,
the Eight's assets and liabilities involve its relationship
to its instinctual drives, which is why it is in the Instinctive
Triad, and so forth for all nine personality types.
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The Triads of the Enneagram
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The inclusion of each type in its Triad is not arbitrary.
Each type results from a particular relationship with a cluster
of issues that characterize that Triad. Most simply, these
issues revolve around a powerful, largely unconscious emotional
response to the loss of contact with the core of the self.
In the Instinctive Triad, the emotion is Anger or Rage.
In the Feeling Triad, the emotion is Shame, and in
the Thinking Triad, it is Anxiety or Dread.
Of course, all nine types contain all three of these emotions,
but in each Triad, the personalities of the types are particularly
affected by that Triad's emotional theme.
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Thus, each type has a particular way of coping with the dominant
emotion of its Triad. We can briefly see what this means by
examining each type, Triad by Triad. In the Instinctive Triad,
Eights act out their anger and instinctual energies.
In other words, when Eights feel anger building in them, they
immediately respond to it in some physical way, raising their
voices, moving more forcefully. Others can clearly see that
Eights are angry because they give themselves permission to
express their anger physically.
Nines deny their anger and instinctual energies
as if to say, "What anger? I am not a person who gets
angry." Nines are the type most out of touch with their
anger and instinctual energies, often feeling threatened by
them. Of course, Nines get angry like everyone else, but try
to stay out of their darker feelings by focusing on idealizations
of their relationships and their world.
Ones attempt to control or repress their anger
and instinctual energy. They feel that they must stay in control
of themselves, especially of their instinctual impulses and
angry feelings at all times. They would like to direct these
energies according to the dictates of their highly developed
inner critic (superego), the source of their strictures on
themselves and others.
In the Feeling Triad, Twos attempt to control
their shame by getting other people to like them and to think
of them as good people. They also want to convince themselves
that they are good, loving people by focusing on their positive
feelings for others while repressing their negative feelings
(such as anger and resentment at not being appreciated enough).
As long as Twos can get positive emotional responses from
others, they feel wanted and are able to control feelings
of shame.
Threes try to deny their shame, and are potentially
the most out of touch with underlying feelings of inadequacy.
Threes learn to cope with shame by trying to become what they
believe a valuable, successful person is like. Thus, Threes
learn to perform well, to be acceptable, even outstanding
and are often driven relentlessly in their pursuit of success
as a way of staving off feelings of shame and fears of failure.
Fours attempt to control their shame by focusing
on how unique and special their particular talents, feelings,
and personal characteristics are. Fours highlight their individuality
and creativity as a way of dealing with their shameful feelings,
although Fours are the type most likely to succumb to feelings
of inadequacy. Fours also manage their shame by cultivating
a rich, romantic fantasy life in which they do not have to
deal with whatever in their life seems drab or uninteresting
to them.
In the Thinking Triad, Fives have anxiety
about the outer world and about their capacity to cope with
it. Thus, they cope with their fear by withdrawing from the
world. Fives become secretive, isolated loners who use their
minds to penetrate into the nature of the world. Fives hope
that eventually, as they understand reality on their own terms,
they will be able to rejoin the world and participate in it,
but they never feel they know enough to participate with total
confidence. Instead, they involve themselves with increasingly
complex inner worlds.
Sixes are the most anxious type, and the most
out of touch with their own sense of inner knowing and confidence.
Unlike Fives, Sixes have trouble trusting their own minds,
so they are constantly looking outside themselves for something
to make them feel sure of themselves. They might turn to philosophies,
beliefs, relationships, jobs, savings, authorities, or any
combination of the above. But no matter how many security
structures they create, Sixes still feel doubtful and anxious.
They may even begin to doubt the very people and beliefs that
they have turned to for reassurance. Sixes may also respond
to their anxiety by impulsively confronting it
defying their fear in the effort to be free of it.
Sevens have anxiety about their inner world.
There are feelings of pain, loss, deprivation, and general
anxiety that Sevens would like to stay clear of as much as
possible. To cope with these feelings, Sevens keep their minds
occupied with exciting possibilities and options
as long as they have something stimulating to anticipate,
Sevens feel that they can distract themselves from their fears.
Sevens, in most cases, do not stop merely at thinking about
these options, however. As much as possible they attempt to
actually do as many of their options as they can. Thus, Sevens
can be found staying on the go, pursuing one experience after
another, and keeping themselves entertained and engaged with
their many ideas and activities.
The Wing
No one is a pure personality type: everyone is a unique
mixture of his or her basic type and usually one of
the two types adjacent to it on the circumference of the Enneagram.
One of the two types adjacent to your basic type is called
your wing.
Your basic type dominates your overall personality,
while the wing complements it and adds important, sometimes
contradictory, elements to your total personality. Your wing
is the "second side" of your personality, and it must be taken
into consideration to better understand yourself or someone
else. For example, if you are a personality type Nine, you
will have likely have either a One-wing or an Eight-wing,
and your personality as a whole can best be understood by
considering the traits of the Nine as they uniquely blend
with the traits of either the One or the Eight. In our teaching
experience over the years, we have also encountered some individuals
who seem to have both wings, while others are strongly influenced
by their basic type and show little of either wing.
There is disagreement among the various traditions of
the Enneagram about whether individuals have one or two wings.
Strictly speaking, everyone has two wingsin the restricted
sense that both of the types adjacent to your basic type are
operative in your personality since each person possesses
the potentials of all nine types. However, this is not what
is usually meant by "having two wings," and proponents of
the so-called two-wing theory believe that both wings operate
more or less equally in everyone's personality. (For example,
they believe that a Nine would have roughly equal amounts
of his or her Eight and One wings.)
Observation of people leads us to conclude that while
the two-wing theory applies to some individuals, most people
have a dominant wing. In the vast majority of people,
while the so-called second wing always remains operative to
some degree, the dominant wing is far more important. (For
example, Twos with Three-wings are noticeably different from
Twos with One-wings, and while Twos with Three-wings have
a One-wing, it is not nearly as important as the Three-wing.)
It is therefore clearer to refer simply to a type's "wing"
as opposed to its "dominant wing," since the two terms represent
the same concept.
One other observation about wings is worth mentioning.
In the course of teaching the Enneagram in workshops and Trainings,
many people in the latter half of their lives have reported
the development of their so-called "second wing."
And in individuals who have been pursuing psychological and/or
spiritual work, we have seen evidence that this is true. We
do not know, however, whether these students were merely seeing
all of the positive potentials of the nine types unfolding
in them as they maturedtheir second wing being one of
the other seven typesor whether this was a specific
development of the second wing type. We will continue to investigate
this idea in our work with our students and colleagues.
It is, of course, necessary to identify your basic type
before you can assess which wing you have. Besides indicating
your basic type, the Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator
may also indicate your wing. Even so, the best way to understand
the influence of your wing is to read the full descriptions
of your type and its wings in Personality Types.
You can also read the descriptions of the two types adjacent
to your basic type and decide which best applies to you.
The Levels of Development
There is an internal structure within each personality type.
That structure is the continuum of behaviors, attitudes,
defenses, and motivations formed by the nine Levels of Development
which makes up the personality type itself. This discovery
(and the working out of all the traits that comprise each type)
was made by Don Riso in 1977, and has been subsequently developed
with Russ Hudson in the last ten years. They are the only
Enneagram teachers to include this important factor in their
treatment of the Enneagram. The Levels are an important
contribution not only to the Enneagram but to ego psychology
and the personality types of the Enneagram cannot be adequately
explained without them. The Levels account for differences
between people of the same type as well as how people change
both for better or worse. Thus, they can also help therapists
and counselors pinpoint what is actually going on with clients
and suggest solutions to the problems they are having.
The Levels of Development provide a framework for seeing
how all of the different traits that comprise each type fit
into a large whole; they are a way of conceptualizing the
underlying "skeletal" structure of each type. Without the
Levels, the types can seem to be an arbitrary collection of
unrelated traits, with contradictory behaviors and attitudes
often part of the picture. But by understanding the Levels
for each type, one can see how all of the traits are
interrelatedand how healthy traits can deteriorate
into average traits and possibly into unhealthy ones. As
pioneering consciousness philosopher Ken Wilber has noted,
without the Levels, the Enneagram is reduced to a "horizontal"
set of nine discrete categories. By including the Levels,
however, a "vertical" dimension is added that not only reflects
the complexity of human nature, but goes far in explaining
many different, important elements within personality.
Further, with the Levels, a dynamic element is introduced
that reflects the changing nature of the personality patterns
themselves. You have probably noticed that people change
constantlysometimes they are clearer, more free,
grounded, and emotionally available, while at other times
they are more anxious, resistant, reactive, emotionally
volatile and less free. Understanding the Levels makes it
clear that when people change states within their personality,
they are shifting within the spectrum of motivations, traits,
and defenses that make up their personality type.
To understand an individual accurately, it is necessary
to perceive where the person lies along the continuum of
Levels of his or her type at a given time. In other words,
one must assess whether a person is in their healthy, average,
or unhealthy range of functioning. This is important because,
for example, two people of the same personality type and wing
will differ significantly if one is healthy and the other
unhealthy. (In relationships and in the business world,
understanding this distinction is crucial.)
The continuum is comprised of nine internal Levels of
Developmentbriefly, there are three Levels in the
healthy section, three Levels in the average section, and
three Levels in the unhealthy section. It may help you to
think of the continuum of Levels as a photographer's gray
scale which has gradations from pure white to pure black
with many shades of gray in between. On the continuum, the
healthiest traits appear first, at the top, so to speak. As
we move down the continuum in a spiral pattern, we progressively
pass through each Level of Development marking a distinct
shift in the personality's deterioration to the pure black
of psychological breakdown at the bottom. The continuum for
each of the personality types can be seen in the following
diagram.
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The Level of Liberation |
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Level 2
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The Level of Psychological
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Level 3
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The Level of Social Value |
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The Level of Imbalance/ Social
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Level 5
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Level 6
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The Level of Overcompensation |
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The Level of Violation |
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The Continuum of the Levels of Development
At each Level, significant psychological shifts
occur as is indicated by the title we have given to it. For
example, at Level 5, the Level of Interpersonal Control, the
person is trying to manipulate himself and others to get his
or her psychological needs met. This invariably creates
interpersonal conflicts. By this Level, the person has also
fully identified with the ego and does not see himself as
anything more than that: the ego must therefore be increasingly
defended and inflated for the person to feel safe and to keep
their identity in tact. If this activity does not satisfy the
person, and anxiety increases, he or she may deteriorate to the
next state, Level 6, the Level of Overcompensation, where their
behavior will become more intrusive and aggressive as they
continue to purse their ego-agenda. Anxiety is increasing, and
the person is increasingly disruptive, and focused on getting
his needs met, regardless of the impact on people around them.
One of the most profound ways of understanding the Levels
is as a measure of our capacity to be present. The more we move
down the Levels, the more identified we are with our ego and
its increasingly negative and restrictive patterns. Our
personality becomes more defensive, reactive, and automatic
and we consequently have less and less real freedom and less
real consciousness. As we move down the Levels, we become caught
in more compulsive, destructive actions which are ultimately
self-defeating.
By contrast, the movement toward health, up the Levels,
is simultaneous with being more present and awake in our minds,
hearts, and bodies. As we become more present, we become less
fixated in the defensive structures of our personality and are
more attuned and open to ourselves and our environment. We see
our personality objectively in action rather than "falling asleep"
to our automatic personality patterns. There is therefore the
possibility of "not doing" our personality and of gaining some
real distance the negative consequences of getting caught in it.
As we become more present, we see our personality traits
more objectively and the Levels become a continuous guide to
self-observation, a map that we can use to chart where we are
in our psycho-spiritual development at any given time. As we
move "up" the Levels, we discover that we are freer and less
driven by compulsive, unconscious drives and therefore able to
act more effectively in all areas of our lives, including in
our relationships. When we are less identified with our
personality, we find that we respond as needed to whatever
life presents, actualizing the positive potentials in all nine
types, bringing real peace, creativity, strength, joy,
compassion, and other positive qualities to whatever we are doing.
(For more, see Personality Types, 45-51, 421-6;
465-93; Understanding the Enneagram, 136-66,
and The Wisdom of the Enneagram.)
Directions of Integration (Security) and Disintegration (Stress)
As we have seen with the Levels of Development, the nine
personality types of the Enneagram are not static categories:
they reflect our change over time. Further, the sequence of
the types and the arrangement of the inner lines of the symbol
are not arbitrary. The inner lines of the Enneagram connect
the types in a sequence that denotes what each type will do
under different conditions. There are two lines connected
to each type, and they connect with two other types. One line
connects with a type that represents how a person of the first
type behaves when they feel more secure and in control of
a situation. This is called the Direction of Integration or
the Security Point. The other line goes to another type that
represents how the person is likely to act out if they are
under increased stress and pressure
when they feel they are not in control of the situation. This
second line is called the Direction of Stress or Disintegration.
In other words, different situations will evoke different
kinds of responses from your personality. You will respond
or adapt in different directions, as indicated by the lines
of the Enneagram from your basic type. Again, we see
the flexibility and dynamism of the Enneagram.
The Direction of Stress or Disintegration
for each type is indicated by the sequence of numbers 1-4-2-8-5-7-1.
This means that an average to unhealthy One under stress will
eventually behave like an average to unhealthy Four; an average
to unhealthy Four will act out their stress like an average
to unhealthy Two; an average to unhealthy Two will act out
under stress like an Eight, an Eight will act out under stress
like a Five, a Five will act out like a Seven, and a Seven
will act our like a One. (An easy way to remember the sequence
is to realize that 1-4 or 14 doubles to 28, and that doubles
to 57or almost so. Thus, 1-4-2-8-5-7and the sequence returns
to 1 and begins again.) Likewise, on the equilateral triangle,
the sequence is 9-6-3-9: a stressed out Nine will act out
like a Six, a stressed out Six will act out like a Three,
and a stressed out Three will act out like a Nine. (You can
remember this sequence if you think of the numerical values
diminishing as the types become more stressed and reactive.
For a longer explanation and examples, see Personality
Types, 47-52, 413-8.) You can see how this works by
following the direction of the arrows on the following Enneagram.
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The Direction of Disintegration
1-4-2-8-5-7-1
9-6-3-9
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The Direction of Integration or Security
is indicated for each type by the reverse of the sequences
for disintegration. Each type moves toward integration in
a direction that is the opposite of its unhealthy direction.
Thus, the sequence for the Direction of Integration is 1-7-5-8-2-4-1:
an integrating One goes to Seven, an integrating Seven goes
to Five, an integrating Five goes to Eight, an integrating
Eight goes to Two, an integrating Two goes to Four, and an
integrating Four goes to One. On the equilateral triangle,
the sequence is 9-3-6-9: an integrating Nine will go to Three,
an integrating Three will go to Six, and an integrating Six
will go to Nine. You can see how this works by following the
direction of the arrows on the following Enneagram.
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The Direction of Integration
1-7-5-8-2-4-1
9-3-6-9
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It is not necessary to have separate Enneagrams for
the Direction of Integration and the Direction of Disintegration.
Both directions can be shown on one Enneagram by eliminating
the arrows and connecting the proper points with plain lines.
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The Direction
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The Direction of
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1-7-5-8-2-4-1
9-3-6-9 |
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1-4-2-8-5-7-1
9-6-3-9 |
No matter which personality type you are, the types in both
your Direction of Integration and your Direction of Stress
or Disintegration are important influences. To obtain a complete
picture of yourself (or of someone else), you must take into
consideration the basic type and wing as well as the two types
in the Directions of Integration and Disintegration. The factors
represented by those four types blend into your total
personality and provide the framework for understanding the
influences operating in you. For example, no one is simply
a personality type Two. A Two has either a One-wing or a Three-wing,
and the Two's Direction of Disintegration (Eight) and its
Direction of Integration (Four) also play important parts
in his or her overall personality.
Ultimately, the goal is for each of us to "move around" the
Enneagram, integrating what each type symbolizes and acquiring
the healthy potentials of all the types. The ideal
is to become a balanced, fully functioning person who can
draw on the power (or from the Latin, "virtue") of each as
needed. Each of the types of the Enneagram symbolizes different
important aspects of what we need to achieve this end. The
personality type we begin life with is therefore less important
ultimately than how well (or badly) we use our type as the
beginning point for our self-development and self-realization.
The Three Instincts
The three Instincts (often erroneously called "the subtypes")
are a third set of distinctions that are extremely important for
understanding personality. A major aspect of human nature lies in
our instinctual "hard wiring" as biological beings. We each are
endowed with specific instinctual intelligences that are necessary
for our survival as individuals and as a species. We each have a
self-preservation instinct (for preserving the body and its life
and functioning), a sexual instinct (for extending ourselves in
the environment and through the generations), and a social instinct
(for getting along with others and forming secure social bonds).
While we have all three Instincts in us, one of them is the dominant focus of
our attention and behaviorthe set of attitudes and values that we are most
attracted to and comfortable with. We each also have a second Instinct that is
used to support the dominant Instinct, as well as a third Instinct that is the
least developeda real blind spot in our personality and our values. Which
Instinct is in each of these three placesmost, middle, and least
developedproduces what we call our "Instinctual Stack" (like a three-layer
cake) with your dominant Instinct on top, the next most developed Instinct in the
middle, and the least developed on the bottom).
These instinctual drives profoundly influence our personalities,
and at the same time, our personalities largely determine how each
person prioritizes these instinctual needs. Thus, while every human
being has all three of these instincts operating in him or her, our
personality causes us to be more concerned with one of these instincts
than the other two. We call this instinct our dominant instinct. This
tends to be our first prioritythe area of life we attend
to first. But when we are more caught up in the defenses of our
personalityfurther down the Levels of Development
our personality most interferes with our dominant instinct.
Further, our Enneagram type flavors the way in which we approach our
dominant instinctual need. Combining our Enneagram type with our
dominant instinct yields a much more specific portrait of the
workings of our personality. When we apply the distinctions of
these three instincts to the nine Enneagram types they create
27 unique combinations of type and dominant instinct that account
for differences and variability within the types. We call these
combinations the Instinctual Variants.
The Enneagram Institute offers an online test, the
Instinctual Variants Questionnaire (IVQ), for helping
people determine not only their dominant instinct, but also their Instinctual
Stack. The IVQ also provides a detailed personality profile derived from the
combination of the test taker's Enneagram type, wing, and Instinctual Stack.
The following are brief descriptions of the three instincts:
Self Preservation Instinct
People who have this as their dominant instinct are preoccupied
with the safety, comfort, health, energy, and well-being of the
physical body. In a word, they are concerned with having enough
resources to meet life's demands. Identification with the
body is a fundamental focus for all humans, and we need our body
to function well in order to be alive and active in the world.
Most people in contemporary cultures are not faced life or death
"survival" in the strictest sense; thus, Self-Preservation types
tend to be concerned with food, money, housing, medical matters,
and physical comfort. Moreover, those primarily focused on
self-preservation, by extension, are usually interested in
maintaining these resources for others as well. Their focus of
attention naturally goes towards things related to these areas
such as clothes, temperature, shopping, decorating, and the like,
particularly if they are not satisfied in these areas or have a
feeling of deficiency due to their childhoods. Self-Pres types
tend to be more grounded, practical, serious, and introverted
than the other two instinctual types. They might have active
social lives and a satisfying intimate relationship, but if
they feel that their self-preservation needs are not being met,
still tend not to be happy or at ease. In their primary
relationships, these people are "nesters"they seek domestic
tranquility and security with a stable, reliable partner.
Sexual (aka "Intimate") Instinct
Many people originally identify themselves as this type
because they have learned that the Sexual types are interested
in "one-on-one relationships." But all three instinctual types
are interested in one-on-one relationships for different reasons,
so this does not distinguish them. The key element in Sexual
types is an intense drive for intimacy and a constant
awareness of the "chemistry" between themselves and others.
Sexual types are immediately aware of the attraction, or
lack thereof, between themselves and other people. Further,
while the basis of this instinct is related to sexuality, it
is not necessarily about people engaging in the sexual act.
There are many people that we are excited to be around for reasons
of personal chemistry that we have no intention of "getting
involved with." Nonetheless, we might be aware that we feel stimulated
in certain people's company and less so in others. The sexual type is
constantly moving toward that sense of intense stimulation and intimacy
in their relationships and in their activities. They are the most
"energized" of the three instinctual types, and tend to be more
aggressive, competitive, charged, and emotionally intense than the
Self-Pres or Social types. Sexual types need to have deep intimacy
in their primary relationships or else they remain unsatisfied. They
enjoy being intensely involvedeven mergedwith others, and can become
disenchanted with partners who are unable to meet their need for intense
energetic union. Losing yourself in a "fusion" of being is the ideal here,
and Sexual types are always looking for this state with others and with
stimulating objects in their world.
Social (aka "Adaptive") Instinct
Just as many people tend to misidentify themselves as Sexual types
because they want one-on-one relationships, many people fail to
recognize themselves as Social types because they get the (false)
idea that this means always being involved in groups, meetings, and
parties. If Self-Preservation types are interested in adjusting the
environment to make themselves more secure and comfortable, Social
types adapt themselves to serve the needs of the social situation they
find themselves in. Thus, Social types are highly aware of other people,
whether they are in intimate situations or in groups. They are also aware
of how their actions and attitudes are affecting those around them. Moreover,
Sexual types seek intimacy, Social types seek personal connection: they want
to stay in long-term contact with people and to be involved in their world.
Social types are the most concerned with doing things that will have some
impact on their community, or even broader domains. They tend to be warmer,
more open, engaging, and socially responsible than the other two types.
In their primary relationships, they seek partners with whom they can share
social activities, wanting their intimates to get involved in projects and
events with them. Paradoxically, they actually tend to avoid long periods
of exclusive intimacy and quiet solitude, seeing both as potentially limiting.
Social types lose their sense of identity and meaning when they are not
involved with others in activities that transcend their individual interests.
Typing Yourself and Others
Once you have taken the Riso-Hudson
Enneagram Type Indicator to discover your dominant type,
and perhaps also the Instinctual Variants
Questionnaire to further refine your understanding of the
Enneagram types, you may be curious about the personality
types of others. Since you will usually not be able to
administer the RHETI or
IVQ to business associates or to strangers, you might wonder how
you can become more skilled at discovering which type someone
else is. By studying the descriptions in Personality
Types, Understanding the Enneagram,
and The Wisdom of the Enneagram, you will, in
time, become more adept at typing people. As you do so, however,
you might keep several points in mind.
You may be able to figure out the types of a few close
friends rather quickly, or you may find it difficult to categorize
people and not know where to begin. Either state is normal.
It is not always apparent which type someone is, and it takes
time and study to sharpen your skills. Remember that you are
like a beginning medical student who is learning to diagnose
a wide variety of conditions, some healthy and some unhealthy.
It takes practice to learn to identify the various "symptoms"
of each type and to see larger "syndromes."
Despite the subtleties and complexities involved, there
is really no secret about typing people. You must learn which
traits go with each type and observe how people manifest those
traits. This is a subtle undertaking because there are many
subtypes and quirks to each personality type. Different types
can sometimes seem similar, particularly if their motivations
are not taken into account. This is why it is not sufficient
to focus on a single trait in isolation and make a diagnosis
based on it alone. It is necessary to see each type as a whole
its overall style, approach to life, and especially its underlying
motivationsbefore you can determine someone's type reliably.
Many elements must come together before you can be sure that
you have typed someone accurately.
Moreover, when we diagnose others, we are always on
thinner ice than when we use the Enneagram to deepen our own
self-knowledge. It is, of course, more appropriate to apply
this material to ourselves than to type others while we avoid
looking at our own lives. Nevertheless, it is unrealistic
to think that anything as interesting (or as insightful) as
the Enneagram will not be used for better understanding others.
In fact, we categorize people all the time. No one approaches
others without some sort of mental categories. We automatically
perceive people either as male or female, black or white,
attractive or unattractive, good or bad, friend or enemy,
and so forth. It is not only honest to be aware of this, it
is useful to have more accurate and appropriate categories
for everyone, including ourselves.
Although the Enneagram is probably the most open-ended
and dynamic of typologies, this does not imply that the Enneagram
can say all there is to say about human beings. Individuals
are understandable only up to a certain point beyond which
they remain mysterious and unpredictable. Thus, while there
can be no simple explanations for persons, it is still possible
to say something true about them. In the last analysis, the
Enneagram helps us to do thatand only that. The Enneagram
is useful because it indicates with startling clarity certain
constellations of meaning about something that is essentially
beyond definition: the mystery that we are.
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